Post by Amy Lombardi on Mar 30, 2009 10:42:49 GMT -5
Subject: dnr
Name: Shannon
Date Posted: Sep 9, 08 - 4:13 PM
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Message: We were recently asked if we were going to fill out a DNR form for Nolan. This isn't anything we have ever thought about. Your thoughts?
Name: Dawn Sorenson
Date Posted: Sep 9, 08 - 8:36 PM
Message: During the latter months of Tina's life, it was suggested to us (her dad and I) to put a DNR in her files at school and hospital so everyone knew what our wishes were. It was a decision that didn't come easy but we knew for us it was the right thing to do.
Name: Georgia Sharp
Date Posted: Sep 9, 08 - 9:40 PM
Message: I have a DNR on both of my girls. I wanted to be able to have a clear idea of what was medically acceptable for our family when not in crises mode. I can tell you that before it was signed, we had a pretty severe seizure event, and I was running around the house trying to decide if I wanted to call 911. It flashed through me that I had not even signed the DNR, and already I wanted to revoke it. I have no idea when the time comes if I will be able to follow through with what I believe to be right for our family. Right now, today, I have pretty strong ideas of what I don't want done to them medically. Tomorrow may be different. It really is a very deeply personal decision that each family has to make, pro or con. Whatever you decide will be right.
Name: Nori
Date Posted: Sep 10, 08 - 9:05 AM
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Message: My doctor called it "Advance Directives" which lets you stipulate anything and everything right down to if you want medications that will stimulate heart beat or blood pressure. You can even state that you want everything humanly possible done to save the person. Remember, this will only be used if you or the child's father are not present. If you are there, they will ask you every step to take. An Advance Directive or a DNR are not binding contracts. It will be honored if you are not present......if the attending physician or EMT's are aware of it.
We had them, but never used them. Our older son died peacefully at home on hospice care. The younger one's lungs filled up and when push came to shove, I could not not let the doctors intubate. But when the tube came out the lungs filled right back up........
at that point, we told them not to re-intubate and he died 3 hours later.
Like Georgia said, it is a very personal decision each one of us will have to make. There is no right or wrong. Good Luck!
Name: Deb Mata
Date Posted: Sep 10, 08 - 10:00 AM
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Message: With JJ we did not have one,we did not think it was time to even think about it yet,he died suddenly with no "major" issues.He just had a great day the day before ,then went to sleep and did not wake up.
With Hilliary, we have one.Seeing how bad she is now and how much pain she is in I could not prolong it for her. I want her to be peaceful and die at home.
It is totally up to you and what you and your family feel is right.
Name: peg davis
Date Posted: Sep 10, 08 - 1:01 PM
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Message: hello! when hannah was in the hospital i saw many people who had dnr's or advance directives in place but they were not honored--i also saw that each hospital or person filling one out interupts them differently--i believe that one asks if they have a dnr in place they do so because it is required for them to do it--each time my kids got worse in the hospital they would ask me--i got very tired of them asking me--they knew i was very strong in my decision of not having one in place--a dnr is not black and white as we think it should be--there is so much grey area involved--Peg
Name: Karen Upchurch
Date Posted: Sep 11, 08 - 11:50 AM
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Message: A dnr let's all know what your directives are but when you involve 911 or a hospital you are saying I am not ready to have you follow through on my dnr. When Rose was with us she had one, it was on record at school and with the doctor, but if something happened at school they are required to call 911 and 911 does not have to honor a dnr. In the hospital they can honor it or not because they are in there. Most hospitals will honor them but make sure it is filled out all the way. Mine was signed by the doctor as well as me. When Dot was with us the hospital honored ours until her release and then she never returned to the hospital. As stated before it is a families decision to make and I can only give you my experience.
Karen
Name: Shannon
Date Posted: Sep 23, 08 - 2:25 PM
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Message: Such a tough choice, when my son Kristopher was with us, I had a DNR put in place, however my doctor told me that I could write the DNR for lets say - Only give him oxygen, do not use drastic means, etc. I know how very hard it is to write such a thing, this is your son/daughter and its the unthinkable. However, if you decide to put one in place, you will know it in your heart. Quaility and quanity of life what a choice one has to make. I am very sorry you are going through such an ordeal, and I can feel your pain, I really can.
Many prayers~
Shannon
Name: Shannon
Date Posted: Sep 9, 08 - 4:13 PM
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Message: We were recently asked if we were going to fill out a DNR form for Nolan. This isn't anything we have ever thought about. Your thoughts?
Name: Dawn Sorenson
Date Posted: Sep 9, 08 - 8:36 PM
Message: During the latter months of Tina's life, it was suggested to us (her dad and I) to put a DNR in her files at school and hospital so everyone knew what our wishes were. It was a decision that didn't come easy but we knew for us it was the right thing to do.
Name: Georgia Sharp
Date Posted: Sep 9, 08 - 9:40 PM
Message: I have a DNR on both of my girls. I wanted to be able to have a clear idea of what was medically acceptable for our family when not in crises mode. I can tell you that before it was signed, we had a pretty severe seizure event, and I was running around the house trying to decide if I wanted to call 911. It flashed through me that I had not even signed the DNR, and already I wanted to revoke it. I have no idea when the time comes if I will be able to follow through with what I believe to be right for our family. Right now, today, I have pretty strong ideas of what I don't want done to them medically. Tomorrow may be different. It really is a very deeply personal decision that each family has to make, pro or con. Whatever you decide will be right.
Name: Nori
Date Posted: Sep 10, 08 - 9:05 AM
Email: Click here to Email
Message: My doctor called it "Advance Directives" which lets you stipulate anything and everything right down to if you want medications that will stimulate heart beat or blood pressure. You can even state that you want everything humanly possible done to save the person. Remember, this will only be used if you or the child's father are not present. If you are there, they will ask you every step to take. An Advance Directive or a DNR are not binding contracts. It will be honored if you are not present......if the attending physician or EMT's are aware of it.
We had them, but never used them. Our older son died peacefully at home on hospice care. The younger one's lungs filled up and when push came to shove, I could not not let the doctors intubate. But when the tube came out the lungs filled right back up........
at that point, we told them not to re-intubate and he died 3 hours later.
Like Georgia said, it is a very personal decision each one of us will have to make. There is no right or wrong. Good Luck!
Name: Deb Mata
Date Posted: Sep 10, 08 - 10:00 AM
Email: Click here to Email
Message: With JJ we did not have one,we did not think it was time to even think about it yet,he died suddenly with no "major" issues.He just had a great day the day before ,then went to sleep and did not wake up.
With Hilliary, we have one.Seeing how bad she is now and how much pain she is in I could not prolong it for her. I want her to be peaceful and die at home.
It is totally up to you and what you and your family feel is right.
Name: peg davis
Date Posted: Sep 10, 08 - 1:01 PM
Email: Click here to Email
Message: hello! when hannah was in the hospital i saw many people who had dnr's or advance directives in place but they were not honored--i also saw that each hospital or person filling one out interupts them differently--i believe that one asks if they have a dnr in place they do so because it is required for them to do it--each time my kids got worse in the hospital they would ask me--i got very tired of them asking me--they knew i was very strong in my decision of not having one in place--a dnr is not black and white as we think it should be--there is so much grey area involved--Peg
Name: Karen Upchurch
Date Posted: Sep 11, 08 - 11:50 AM
Email: Click here to Email
Message: A dnr let's all know what your directives are but when you involve 911 or a hospital you are saying I am not ready to have you follow through on my dnr. When Rose was with us she had one, it was on record at school and with the doctor, but if something happened at school they are required to call 911 and 911 does not have to honor a dnr. In the hospital they can honor it or not because they are in there. Most hospitals will honor them but make sure it is filled out all the way. Mine was signed by the doctor as well as me. When Dot was with us the hospital honored ours until her release and then she never returned to the hospital. As stated before it is a families decision to make and I can only give you my experience.
Karen
Name: Shannon
Date Posted: Sep 23, 08 - 2:25 PM
Email: Click here to Email
Message: Such a tough choice, when my son Kristopher was with us, I had a DNR put in place, however my doctor told me that I could write the DNR for lets say - Only give him oxygen, do not use drastic means, etc. I know how very hard it is to write such a thing, this is your son/daughter and its the unthinkable. However, if you decide to put one in place, you will know it in your heart. Quaility and quanity of life what a choice one has to make. I am very sorry you are going through such an ordeal, and I can feel your pain, I really can.
Many prayers~
Shannon