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divorse
Oct 4, 2009 13:08:45 GMT -5
Post by unknown on Oct 4, 2009 13:08:45 GMT -5
Just was wondering if any of you with kid(s) with battens could just not make your marriage work out? That seems to be where we are. We have tried counciling, another church... Nothing seems to reatatch us. It is taking away from the quality of life for the kids having hostile, yet fairly silent, parents. So, just wondering if anyone has gone through a divorse with two battens kids and how did you untangle your web?
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divorse
Oct 4, 2009 15:36:50 GMT -5
Post by juvenile mom on Oct 4, 2009 15:36:50 GMT -5
We have not found ourselves in this positon but can quite understand how it does happen and have heard it often does hope you can find the strength to pull together during these difficult times wishing you all the best
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divorse
Oct 7, 2009 11:03:58 GMT -5
Post by mom to JNCL on Oct 7, 2009 11:03:58 GMT -5
We went through a very similar time in our marriage. You both are dealing with a lot of emotions, I know I had some deep anger issues, and my husband dealt with them by occupying his time in other activities away from home, which in turn made me angrier. We too had a lot of evenings of avoiding each other. We got through it, I hope you do too. Communication talk and listen, if you can't do it by yourselves go to counseling. I hope the best for you. It is well worth it if you can make it work.
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tinim
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Sometimes the miracle we get is not the miracle we asked for.
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divorse
Oct 8, 2009 14:30:09 GMT -5
Post by tinim on Oct 8, 2009 14:30:09 GMT -5
Batten Disease is very hard on marriages. If its worth saving you will find a way to make it work. Some people just can't cope with the daily stress and have to leave, if thats the case it may be less stressful on everyone involved. Only you and your spouse can make these decisions. I wish you the best.
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divorse
Jun 22, 2010 13:03:20 GMT -5
Post by butterflie on Jun 22, 2010 13:03:20 GMT -5
Sometimes things just don't work out even with out a family like this (with Batten's) You both just need to sit down and have a heart to heart conversation. You need to ask each other questions like are you still in love with each other. Or why are you with each other. Why do you fight......like is it a simple problem that can be fixed or are either of you willing to change it.....or is it a big problem....lots of things play out with situations.....is it that you are both stressed out and can learn to work together and destress.....would you really be better together and help one another out with the children or can it just not be fixable. those are all questions you need to be honest with one another.....it takes 2 to make a marriage work and it takes the same 2 to decide when it is just no longer going to work....but you both have to be on the same page with it.....sometimes it can be fixable and sometimes it can't....I have a child with batten's but we ended up in divorice before we ever found our child had this disease...it really had nothing to do with the children it was our own problems that could not be fixed......probably more so because we were not willing to work together.....but we sometimes work together now.....at least try to for the child....hope this helps....good luck to both of you
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divorse
Aug 8, 2010 20:48:21 GMT -5
Post by Jess Montville on Aug 8, 2010 20:48:21 GMT -5
Hi,
Some marriages can work and survive some can't. The kids happiness has to come first. We are going through a divorce also. It doesn't help the kids if you don't get along. Some ppl can handle it, some can't. It doesnt make you a bad person or the other person. Just need to know the kiddos come first.
Good luck. Jess
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